Mar 16, 2011


I'm so confused, I have no clue what to do....I want another baby but I'm scared that financially it will destroy us and I don't want us to have to struggle....But on the other hand I'm scared about what to do with my embryos....I don't feel comfortable having them destroyed because to me that's the same thing as having an ABORTION and then I'm not sure about donating them to the facility for research or to another couple....WHAT SHOULD I DO?????? This decision has me really stressed out and feeling depressed....I wish GOD can give me a sign on what I should do.

Jan 20, 2011

New Profession

Okay so I've decided that I want to become a baker and start my own baking business....I love to cook and its always been one of my dreams to have my own bakery...I have baked a few cakes using box cake but just recently I did my very first cake from scratch....I was pleased to hear from others that the cake came out delicious and it looked very beautiful so this is a step towards starting my business....Hopefully by the summer I will be an expert at baking.

Jan 17, 2011


So my partner and I have been discussing whether we should have another baby or just donate the remainder of my eggs. We decided to donate them until I called the facility and it turns out that I don't have eggs, I actually have embryos. Now we have changed our minds, we have decided to pay the next few storage fees and hopefully in about 6 months we will start the process for another baby. I hope that making this decision doesn't make us seem selfish. We hope that after the process, whatever embryos are left we will then donate those eggs to the facility. How does one know if they have made the correct decision on donating or keeping the embryos? 

Jan 11, 2011

Morning Time

So I wake up this morning to find my son playing with the blinds again. He's only 17 months old, how do I get him to listen and stop breaking the blinds?  I get started on breakfast and have decided to give my boys a bowl of cereal. My son, the one who broke the blinds decides to push his brother out the way and in the process knocked the bowl out of my hands. I had to discipline him with a spanking on the hand and butt and then I put him on time out. Is it wrong for me to spank him at this age. He's constantly shoving his brother and being very selfish. So my question is how do I handle those kind of situations without spanking any of them?

Jan 10, 2011


We all know that when you have children things change. One of the biggest changes that I didn't know or expect was friendship. I'm a stay at home mom and my wife and I have been together for a long time. It took us a while before we decided to have children. We figured that we would wait until we were financially ready but the truth of the matter is that you can never be financially ready for kids. Our children are 17 months and through those months we realized that not many of our friends are around any longer. It is tough enough being a lesbian couple but when your support system gets depleted or is not necessarily there in times of need it is definitely a bit tougher.  It is not that all friends are completely out of your lives but more of a diminished contact which may just be due to the fact that things change and your not the partying couple or person that you used to be prior to having kids.  It may just be due to the fact that they may feel we no longer have anything in common.  Either way it feels strange.  Even in common conversation there is a feeling to have to sometimes edit and not talk so much about the kids.  When an event occurs there is no longer an invite from people but more of an assumption that we just can't go.  Most of the times we can't but they would not know of the times we in fact can unless they ask. So the question is, What do you do, try harder to remain that friendship or do you just move on?